How does one go about a break up? I always used to wonder how one can look at past memories with a significant other and just wake up one day thinking, “This isn’t working out; it’s time to move on.” As sad as it is to say, I’ve always been the victim of situations like this, but this time, I find myself on the other side, and I’m a little lost. I’ve only had three relationships before this one, but I’m starting to understand that it’s more of a gradual feeling and thought process. For some, I’m sure breaking up is just an instant decision, but I’d like to think that someday, if I were to look at a past heartbreak, I could rest easy knowing that I gave each relationship my all. Still, it doesn’t make it any easier. It just seems so…abnormal to me. We finally gain enough confidence and trust in someone to be vulnerable, know each other’s quirks and pet peeves, only to have it all crushed in a matter of time. For some, all it takes is one, or in my case, five strikes until we realize that what we have right in front of us, just isn’t working out anymore. Because I’ve been on the other side, I want to approach this poignantly and with ease so there’s less awkward tension.
Suddenly, I feel my phone vibrate in my back pocket.
hey gabs, i’m so sorry to be doing this over text, but this just isn’t working out. i hope we can still be friends in the future. see ya around.
I stare blankly at the screen, unsure of how I should feel. Looks like we were both on the same page for once after all.